the merry go round of the fantasy unmet~



Relationships and Trauma

A survivor of complex trauma will often continue the same fantasies they had as children into their adult lives. Survivors look for rescuers or saviors in partners only to become disillusioned when this rescuer shows human error or is not able to be that unconditional rescuer 24 7~

A survivor can also become the rescuer/savior looking for a partner that they can save or rescue only to become disillusioned when the partner that loved them so much in the beginning is now angry and annoyed and even in more need of being saved (saving their selves that is).

A survivor can also attach to the idea of being in love rather than actually being present in the relationship in order to act in a loving way towards their partner. This can look like becoming a unit rather than two separate individuals within the relationship. The thinking…

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