self destructive behaviors



Why do we pick our skin? Why do we pick our scalp until it bleeds? Why do we pull our hair, bite our fingers nails until they are raw, bleeding and down to the bone? Why do we cut? Why do we starve ourselves? Why do we eat too much? Sometimes we play video games for days, or zone out through substances or alcohol.

These behaviors are a way to cope, a way to protect what feels like scary feelings. A way to continue the ” freeze state,” or ” immobilized state.” Such behaviors are excellent ways to leave our body, zone out, space out, stay outside of our body, stay disconnected from unpleasant sensations, like butterflies, in the stomach, aches, chills, tingles, throbbing pain, burning in our diaphragm , pain in our head, or heaviness in the chest. Chronic pain unexplained by doctors, is sometimes connected to locked trauma in the nervous system…

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