Children who grow up in dysfunctional family systems do not develop emotional EQ. They miss important developmental milestones because they are busy putting all of their energy into survival. This leads to children who grow up to become Adult children also known as the Adult Child. If you grow up in a home where your…
A giant in the EMDR community has passed away today. Dr. AJ Popky. He was an incredible healer, teacher and clinician. I had the great honour of sponsoring him to come to Vancouver and lead a workshop on his Urge DeTUR protocol using EMDR. He had a great sense of humour and a generous spirit….
PTSD PTSD, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, is well known as a common issue among people returning from war zones, or who have been exposed to significant trauma during natural disasters. COVID-19 It is now becoming clear that after a year of fighting the Covid-19 virus, physicians, nurses, first responders and other medical staff around the…
Vicarious Trauma, PTSD, Burnout Some of the important outcomes of dealing with COVID-19 for healthcare professionals have been vicarious trauma, burnout and PTSD. There are plenty of effective strategies to cope with the stress and stay resilient if you are a healthcare professional. On the Anxiety Canada Website, you can find tools…
Coming Soon… Online Video Modules; “Making Sense of Childhood Trauma.” For anyone who wishes to learn about trauma and master emotions or experience them without shutting down. For anyone who wants to be a better parent, partner, or friend. For anyone who wants to be the best version of themselves. For anyone who wants to achieve a life…
PTSD is a Disorder
FACT Post Trauma is an injury not a disorder
PTSD is everywhere.
FACT There is a greater understanding and awareness about trauma now.
PTSD is untreatable
EMDR and Exposure therapies work
Dissociation is a phenomena or defence mechanism designed to protect us from threat. It’s a state that one can move into when they sense danger. Sometimes when a person is in a dangerous or threatening situation a person will freeze kind of like a deer in headlights. Once the threat has past so does the freeze response.
Children idealize their dysfunctional caregivers in various ways. They do this by creating a fantasy of who their caregivers are. They literally tell themselves lies, make up stories in their mind about how wonderful their caretakers are. They exaggerate their caretaker’s strengths to minimize the deficits or abuse as a way to survive the dysfunctional system. They tell stories to themselves about how wonderful their father, mother or caregivers are so that they can be sure to omit the abuse adapt and carry on.
Did you grow up in a childhood where you spent the majority of your time taking care of your caregiver(s) needs? Instead of your parents meeting your needs, you found yourself sacrificing your needs to take care of your parents? Your parents were self-involved, more worried about their own needs and wants that you were neglected or ignored? This kind of parenting is known as narcissistic parenting.