Digital Attachment Trauma

We are embedded in a critical age of what I am going to call digital attachment trauma. It is with much sadness I witness parents on their digital gadgets while their school-age children are either on their digital toys as well, or they are bored and staring at their parent consumed with Facebook, Twitter or…

Are You A Functional Adult Or An Adaptive Child?

Are You An Adaptive Child? I am the child who had to adapt to the crazy dysfunctional family I grew up in.  I did a great job of negotiating the narcissistic parenting I received. I made sure my parent’s sibling, or pet came before me. This seemed to calm the stormy waters which were a…

Rants From The Adaptive Child… Boundaries

What are you talking about.. boundaries? What the heck is a boundary? What do you mean? Where you begin and I end? I don’t know what you are talking about? I was violated physically, sexually, emotionally, mentally.  I learned I was the abuser’s property. I couldn’t say NO. My thoughts and my feelings belonged to…

Rants From The Adaptive Child… Needs

What are your needs? Do you mean meet other people’s needs? My kids? My partner? My dysfunctional parents? I remember taking care of my parents when  I was a kid. Is this what you mean? I don’t know what my needs are. I get hungry. I get tired. Is this what you mean? Sometimes I…

Intensive EMDR Heals Operational Stress – Combat Trauma.

There is hope for those who have experienced multiple operational stress injuries. The hope is intensive EMDR treatment, which gives each operational stress injury the attention the injury needs through reprocessing. EMDR follows a ‘past – present – future’ protocol, which, for which comprehensive treatment requires targeting and reprocessing memories that are linked to the…

Trauma – Grief and Loss

When it comes to trauma, grief and loss aren’t talked about enough. In fact, some psychologists believe that grief is a more important factor in Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. After all, once the trauma(s) are over, there is almost always loss; loss of meaning, loss of identity (in some cases), loss of childhood, loss of…

Parts of Self Trapped in Trauma Time

What are parts of self? Do I have parts? Does everyone have parts? We all have different parts of ourselves. You likely have a part when you talk to your kitty, and another part when you talk to your boss, partner or friend. These parts are not rigid – they are flexible and malleable. You…

Episode 180 – Dr. Howard Lipke: HEArt for Veterans: Identifying the Hidden Emotion (inSocialWork Podcast Series of the University at Buffalo)

Vets and Anger Source: Episode 180 – Dr. Howard Lipke: HEArt for Veterans: Identifying the Hidden Emotion (inSocialWork Podcast Series of the University at Buffalo) In this episode, Dr. Howard Lipke describes what he calls the Hidden Emotion Articulation (HEArt) Program, a contrast to traditional anger management programs. This approach, developed especially for the unique…