Digital Attachment Trauma

We are embedded in a critical age of what I am going to call digital attachment trauma. It is with much sadness I witness parents on their digital gadgets while their school-age children are either on their digital toys as well, or they are bored and staring at their parent consumed with facebook, twitter or…

rants from the adaptive child… boundaries

rants from the adaptive child… Boundaries   What are you talking about.. boundaries? What the heck is a boundary?  What do you mean? Where you begin and I end? I don’t know what you are talking about? I was violated physically, sexually, emotionally, mentally.  I learned I was the abuser’s property. I couldn’t say NO. …

Relationships and Regulation

  Interesting how so many dating advice sites and popular dating books  ask that women stop being needy, or never act needy, or remain aloof,  but what a lot of these self-help articles for dating and relationship  miss, is how  important it is to turn toward our partner, be honest about our feelings, and then regulate our…

Intensive EMDR heals Operational Stress – Combat Trauma.

There is hope for those who have experienced multiple operational stress injuries. The hope is intensive EMDR treatment which gives each operational stress injury the attention the injury needs through reprocessing. EMDR follows a past present future protocol which for comprehensive treatment requires targeting and reprocessing past memories that are linked to the operational injury…

Trauma – grief and loss

When it comes to trauma, grief and loss isn’t talked about enough. In fact some psychologists believe that grief is a more important factor in Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. After all once the trauma (s) are over there is almost always loss. Loss of meaning, in some cases loss of identity, loss of childhood, loss…

Parts of self trapped in trauma time

  What are parts of self? Do I have parts? Does everyone have parts? We all have different parts of ourselves. You likely have a part when you talk to your kitty: and another part when you talk to your boss, partner or friend. These parts are not rigid – they are flexible and malleable.  You…