Family Counselling

 Family Counselling -North Vancouver

    Very often I am asked to work with a child or youth who displays what the adults in their lives perceive as the problem behaviour. It has been my experience that the families who come for help which include the mother(s), father(s) caregivers and in some cases step-parents, are the families that succeed in encouraging, supporting and lifting up their child. Once the family as a unit has come in for guidance, the child’s problems magically disappear.

Why is this?

Each member of the family is accountable to the family system, the way they dance or don’t dance with each other. Therefore when one member in this family system dances, another member is affected in a positive or negative way. My role is to identify the dance steps and the patterns that family members get stuck in.

To help move the family system out of the patterns that the family is stuck in.

Families I work with:

  • Blended Families
  • Same-sex families
  • Veterans and their families – spouse
  • First Responders and their family
  • Intergenerational Trauma work with the family system.
  • Parents in power struggles with teens
  • Parents with youth who are struggling with substance use
  • Parents kids who continue negative behaviours
  • Children who have experienced trauma
  • Parents with kids who struggle with anxiety
  • Parents with kids who have given up or lack self-esteem
  • Parents of kids who are bullied
  • A parent who has been diagnosed PTSD
  • Parents with complex trauma in their histories.
  • Parents who are survivors of an alcoholic or dysfunctional family system.

What you can expect in Family Therapy

I  will work with members of your family system. I  will motivate each family member to work together through a process that will encourage leadership and differentiation. I work with the family to encourage youth to develop logical consequences for their own negative behaviours,  I also teach leadership strategies for parents, as well as strengthen the family system through democratic principles.

I foster family strengths already in place, as well as, identify family patterns by examining multi-generational patterns of trauma. Ultimately, I help family members differentiate so that they can achieve personal goals as well as maintain balance within their family system.

crystalarber@gmail.com

p.603 340 4529