Trauma Process Group

Psychotherapeutic Group work for survivors of complex traumaAre you a survivor of Childhood Trauma? Do you want to have healthy relationships? Be a better parent, partner or friend? This group is designed for survivors of childhood trauma. We will explore the family of origin dynamics as well as intergenerational trauma.

In this ongoing psychotherapeutic group, you will learn how to:

  • Regulate emotions ( Feeling too much) Quick to anger in relationships. Irritable.
  • Connect to your partner, child, boss or friend without detaching. ( Feeling too little). Often feel numb.
  • Explore how trauma affects the brain and nervous system.
  • Understand what codependency is and how children adapt to crazy environments which create unhelpful ways of relating in the present even though these ways were helpful in childhood.
  • Skills for dealing with dissociation.
  • Skills for understanding triggers through EMDR and Somatic strategies.
  • Learn about the importance of grief.
  • Explore meaning systems. How do we make sense of it all?
  • Learn how to reciprocate in relationships through being a member of a safe group.

To Qualify for the Process Trauma Group Work

You are a survivor of complex trauma or developmental trauma.

You are already seeing me as a client on a regular basis 

Have maintained sobriety or abstinence from self-harm behaviours for one year. 

Are ready to give to others as much as you take from the group.

In order to find your true self ( precious and free) you are willing to  stop the adaptive behaviours that helped you survive the trauma you experienced as a child and be willing to let go of these behaviours. This means that you agree to be challenged on these behaviours as they show up in the group process and be open to change. 

Examples of these behaviours are perfectionism, rigidity, inflexible boundaries or walls, no boundaries, people pleasing, over compliance, controlling, dominating, playing the victim, playing the offender, Letting your critic part ruin relationships or shame you into submission or self-destructive behaviours. These adaptive behaviours learned in dysfunctional families often lead to what is known as the repetition compulsion phenomena in adulthood. Without intervention, an adult child moves through life as a false self never knowing their true self or calling in life. The false self often plays out the trauma from the family of origin in dysfunctional relationships and workplaces over and over again which then leads to self-soothing behaviours such as addictive or self-harm behaviours that make life miserable. The best way to be set free of these behaviours is to first become aware of the behaviours and second to begin to grieve the loss of loving parents who did not provide a secure base for you to grow up. Through group work, you will learn to feel as well as make sense of these feelings in your mind and body. 

This group is not for everyone. Members will be asked to commit to the process of growth for a minimum of one year which will sometimes be painful and ultimately rewarding.