Rants From The Adaptive Child… Assertiveness

The adaptive child is the child stuck in the adults body that never got to grow up because they were too busy trying to survive a chaotic family.

Rants From The Adaptive Child… Boundaries

What are you talking about.. boundaries? What the heck is a boundary? What do you mean? Where do you begin and I end? I don’t know what you are talking about. I was violated physically, sexually, emotionally, and mentally.  I learned I was the abuser’s property. I couldn’t say NO. My thoughts and my feelings…

Rants From The Adaptive Child… Needs

What are your needs? Do you mean meet other people’s needs? My kids? My partner? My dysfunctional parents? I remember taking care of my parents when  I was a kid. Is this what you mean? I don’t know what my needs are. I get hungry. I get tired. Is this what you mean? Sometimes I…