I Don’t Believe In A Loving Force

For those of us who have experienced complex trauma, the idea that something greater than ourselves could be somewhere out there in the abyss (so to speak), is absurd. After all, for some of us, our caregivers were the only greater we understood and it was not so great. Moreover, that greater was the power…

Crayons And Complex Trauma

Go for it! Get in touch with that little boy or little girl and colour your face off. As a therapist, I have a box of crayons in my office. Paints and felt markers will also do the trick. Colouring taps into the right side of our brain which connects to our emotional brain. If…

Healing From Trauma Is Not An Intellectual Exercise

“The longest journey is from the head to the heart.” It is not uncommon for people who have suffered complex trauma to be extremely intelligent. It makes sense that if the amygdala is overactive, and because of this, we find that emotions are not necessarily our friend, it only seems natural that we make up…

The Merry-Go-Round Of The Fantasy Unmet

Relationships and Trauma A survivor of complex trauma will often continue the same fantasies they had as children into their adult lives. Survivors look for rescuers or saviours in partners only to become disillusioned when this rescuer shows a human error or is not able to be that unconditional rescuer 24/7. A survivor can also…