Relationships and Regulation

It’s interesting how so many dating advice sites and popular dating books ask women to stop being needy, or never act needy, or remain aloof. But what a lot of these self-help articles for dating and relationships miss, is how important it is to turn toward our partner, be honest about our feelings, and then…

Episode 180 – Dr. Howard Lipke: HEArt for Veterans: Identifying the Hidden Emotion (inSocialWork Podcast Series of the University at Buffalo)

Vets and Anger Source: Episode 180 – Dr. Howard Lipke: HEArt for Veterans: Identifying the Hidden Emotion (inSocialWork Podcast Series of the University at Buffalo) In this episode, Dr. Howard Lipke describes what he calls the Hidden Emotion Articulation (HEArt) Program, a contrast to traditional anger management programs. This approach, developed especially for the unique…

A Powerful EMDR Session And How This Blog Came To Be

While working through a difficult experience, I decided to arrange for an EMDR session. In this session, I floated back to an earlier time where the negative belief was, “I am worthless”. While doing eye movements with this particular memory, I had a burst of emotion flood out of me. Once the emotion (tears, distress,…

Crayons And Complex Trauma

Go for it! Get in touch with that little boy or little girl and colour your face off. As a therapist, I have a box of crayons in my office. Paints and felt markers will also do the trick. Colouring taps into the right side of our brain which connects to our emotional brain. If…