Sex & Abuse of Power

Sex & Abuse of  Power 2022 – June 29th – is an incredibly historic day for women and in particular for black women. A famous artist with lots of power is brought down for human trafficking, sex abuse, and child pornography.  R.Kelly  Justice is served.  I have never witnessed anything like this in my lifetime….

EMDR in a Group- Benefits

The benefits of doing EMDR in a group are : Community and friendship Being with peers who have had similar experiences You don’t have to talk about your trauma A private experience in a community The benefit of processing in an intensive format for more than one hour is to release nasty negative emotions and…

Making Sense of Childhood Trauma

Coming Soon… Online Video Modules;  “Making Sense of Childhood Trauma.” For anyone who wishes to learn about trauma and master emotions or experience them without shutting down. For anyone who wants to be a better parent, partner, or friend. For anyone who wants to be the best version of themselves. For anyone who wants to achieve a life…

Digital Attachment Trauma

We are embedded in a critical age of what I am going to call digital attachment trauma. It is with much sadness I witness parents on their digital gadgets while their school-age children are either on their digital toys as well, or they are bored and staring at their parents consumed with Facebook, Twitter or…

Rants From The Adaptive Child… Assertiveness

The adaptive child is the child stuck in the adults body that never got to grow up because they were too busy trying to survive a chaotic family.

Rants From The Adaptive Child… Boundaries

What are you talking about.. boundaries? What the heck is a boundary? What do you mean? Where do you begin and I end? I don’t know what you are talking about. I was violated physically, sexually, emotionally, and mentally.  I learned I was the abuser’s property. I couldn’t say NO. My thoughts and my feelings…

Rants From The Adaptive Child… Needs

What are your needs? Do you mean meet other people’s needs? My kids? My partner? My dysfunctional parents? I remember taking care of my parents when  I was a kid. Is this what you mean? I don’t know what my needs are. I get hungry. I get tired. Is this what you mean? Sometimes I…

Intensive EMDR Heals Operational Stress – Combat Trauma.

There is hope for those who have experienced multiple operational stress injuries. The hope is intensive EMDR treatment, which gives each operational stress injury the attention the injury needs through reprocessing. EMDR follows a ‘past – present – future’ protocol, which, for which comprehensive treatment requires targeting and reprocessing memories that are linked to the…

Trauma – Grief and Loss

When it comes to trauma, grief and loss aren’t talked about enough. In fact, some psychologists believe that grief is a more important factor in Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. After all, once the trauma(s) are over, there is almost always loss; loss of meaning, loss of identity (in some cases), loss of childhood, loss of…

Parts of Self Trapped in Trauma Time

What are parts of self? Do I have parts? Does everyone have parts? We all have different parts of ourselves. You likely have a part when you talk to your kitty, and another part when you talk to your boss, partner or friend. These parts are not rigid – they are flexible and malleable. You…